10.04.2025
5 USELESS ATTITUDES AND 5 SUBTLE MINDSETS THAT LEAD TO SUCCESS
You dress to go out and hop, loop the pantyhose. You say to yourself, "Well, it's thin, it's breaking", you take another one and put on your shoes as if nothing happened. Or a button falls on your shirt and you change it quickly, without drama.
Congratulations - you are one of those people who think pragmatically and are set up for success.
You could have been one of those who would immediately exclaim "Oh, horror, I'm not going to do well today". According to psychologists, this is a wrong state of mind. It's some kind of loop, it's some kind of button, but it shakes the attitude that you're in for a good day. Faith in your own strength is too fragile. And it is the most important one, on which your achievements are built both in your professional and personal life. Everything starts from your own head, from your way of thinking.
Wow, how sick of these self-fulfilling prophecy theories. But if you will believe it, experts say that the wrong state of mind sabotages success.
In life, practically nothing is black and white, there are always nuances. But if you want to get to know each other, you might try looking at each other a little simplistically, through mutually exclusive attitudes. Honestly tell yourself which of the two you are more inclined to give in to, is it good and if not, what are you doing to change it.
This morning sock or button drama is an example of tuning in to scarcity, not abundance. You get angry at luck, you see a finger with which fate points to you that today will not go well for you. A little thing happens, and you attach great importance to it because of your insecurity. You don't care - if you don't have any other tights, you'll go out barefoot, if you don't have another clean shirt, you'll go in a T-shirt, do your job and win.
Another crooked manifestation of the "scarcity-abundance" attitude is envy. Business and society are based on competition, but you will always fail if you think that the success of one means the failure of another. This should not be the lottery, so that when someone wins the jackpot, there are no millions for the others in the next few draws.
Work, don't envy, enjoy the success of others and believe that as it came to them, so it will come to you - this is the attitude of a winner, emphasize the experts in personal development.
Comparison is another unhelpful mindset. It is instilled from the early years, when parents and teachers cannot help but make an example of excellent students. Remember how much you hated that Veselka and that Deyan who did everything perfectly.
If you know how unpleasant it is to compare, why do you continue to inflict negative feelings on yourself by thinking about your fellow high achiever. This is completely unproductive. He may have a talent that you don't have. That doesn't make you incompetent, it makes you different. Look at yourself, appreciate your strengths and develop them to achieve success.
However, experts emphasize that you should not make the opposite mistake - getting drunk on yourself by comparing yourself to incompetents. So you are not able to use your potential.
But since you're working among people after all, and it's somehow inevitable to compare yourself, at least let it be constructive. Not as an opposition "excellent - incompetent". Do not envy the colleague, do not hate him, but study him - how he achieves success. This already means having the right mindset, wanting to value and "buy" head-on experience.
By the way, experts advise not to pay "public opinion tax". You expect recognition from others, and if you don't wait for it, you get so disappointed that you start to underestimate yourself. Get used to the idea that most people are selfish, self-centered, and rarely value someone else's achievement. This may include your boss, who thinks it is your job to succeed.
Do not suffer even if the partner, parents, friends do not think to praise you. They probably believed in you, that's what they expected to happen, they don't see your success as a big event. You know best what it has cost you, so give yourself the credit you deserve. Be truly happy and be inspired for further success.
This attitude is also formed from early childhood, parents and teachers start it, then the boss takes over - you are asked to do everything in the best way. And you begin to want this from yourself, you become maximalists.
However, you run the risk of rewinding and missing out on success. Or you achieve it, but you don't feel satisfied because a little something didn't turn out exactly as you planned. Or you're so consumed with trying to be perfect that you can't be happy.
You can't be perfect. This is not just a wrong mindset, but a proven recipe for unhappiness and even a shortcut to professional burnout, depression, and various other scary things.
It is not a shortcut to success, however, to be undemanding to your own work. "Whatever happens" is disrespect, above all, to yourself. With such an attitude it usually goes badly.
You go after a goal and you don't give up until you reach it. Great, but only at first glance.
Successful people don't get stuck, they don't set their minds in one direction, they change when they need to.
Not only can, but you must be flexible, reshape the plan. And it is not a sin to change the goal if it no longer seems the right one, either because the circumstances are different, or because the path to it does not make you happy. Single-mindedness and rigidity are not synonymous.
Naturally, giving up quickly is not a good attitude. One of the most valuable qualities is being able to choose when it is worth continuing and when it is wiser to make changes in one's efforts and intentions.
This setting is very easy to check. Think about how often you tend to reject. The boss orders something or a colleague makes a suggestion. Your knee-jerk reaction to your mind or voice is "That can't be done."
The attitude of disbelief even "at first reading" is a stereotype that condemns to failure. Everything can be rejected, but after thinking about it, after weighing the pros and cons.
Blind faith is stupidity, but blind disbelief is also, in principle, highly unproductive. Usually a person who reacts this way to the suggestions of others develops the same reaction to himself. He starts chasing his ideas with "That won't happen, why bother".
Some people are prone to pessimism by birth, but very often they exhibit or do not exhibit this quality depending on their environment.
Being influenced by black people is easier. Every office has them and they are contagious. How much is it to join those who are forever grumbling, complaining, thinking that "this can't be done", predicting collapse. But whining confuses your thoughts, saps your energy, robs you of belief in success.
It is up to you to avoid negative people and associate with motivated ones. Enthusiasm is also contagious.
------ The self-satisfied or self-critical self -------
The attitude of success or failure is really in the head, and it starts with how you talk about yourself to yourself.
A mature person must believe in his own strength, have a proper self-esteem and neither underestimate himself nor be complacent. The balance is quite complicated. Staggering at one extreme or the other is more common.
Complacency clearly does not lead to development. But excessive self-criticism also does not lead. It is generally a good quality within certain limits. Outside of them it hurts.
If you call yourself a "fool" at every mistake, if you don't like anything about yourself, you won't achieve anything.
On the contrary - positive self-talk helps a lot, psychologists assure.
Don't take the term too literally. You think positively of yourself. And every night tell yourself out loud that you are great because of how many good things you have accomplished today.
