20.03.2025
WRONG WITH YOUR INTERVIEWER'S NAME?! BIG FAIL. TRICKS TO REMEMBER
He mutters something as you shake hands. He tells you his name because you are meeting for the first time. It doesn't give you a business card to read it. You're kidding a bit about who exactly you're dealing with. And it is important for you to convince him of something, to make a deal.
Then don't be shy about asking him for his name, apologizing that you didn't hear him well. You have a better chance of succeeding in your intentions if you repeat it often. If you get it wrong, you torpedo the meeting.
Most people like to hear their name. Psychologists explain why - for each person, it is the most essential connection with their identity and individuality. By repeating it, you shorten the distance. You stop being two strangers, you build closeness. You make the impression of an attentive, kind, even warm-hearted person who can be trusted.
Do not hesitate to address your interlocutor by name often, this trick has been proven to work, advise communication experts.
However, there is an exception where you should refrain - the person has a strange last name that you suspect he does not like. For example, Gazibarov. In such a case, you can artistically suggest that you talk to each other in small names.
It is very important to pronounce the name correctly. You should not only remember it when the person introduces himself, but also pay attention to where he puts the emphasis. At the same time, it is not necessary for the name to be unfamiliar and complicated - a mistake is allowed even with Todorov.
Don't be afraid to ask how the name is pronounced when someone hands you a business card in Latin and you're not sure how to read it.
The second problem is how to remember the name.
"People's names are not a priority for our minds," the scientists point out. for us or is friendly. And the name is not essential to this judgment."
It is precisely for this reason that it is customary for business people to exchange business cards on a first meeting. When your interlocutor is alone, put it in front of you and quietly look at it. When meeting with several people, arrange the cards in the order in which the people are sitting across from you.
When giving a verbal introduction, it will be easier to remember the name if you repeat it while looking the person in the eye. Saying it out loud has been proven to help you remember it. And when you look the person in the eyes, you naturally connect a name and a face.
If the name is hard to pronounce, repeat it slowly. This will allow the interlocutor to correct you to say it correctly. You won't look stupid. You will give the person the impression that you care if you know their name. He will feel respected.
Experts advise you to practice if you are one of those who have a hard time remembering names.
You can create a system. The most basic is to imagine something related to the name. Boyadzhiev, Hlebarov, Kovachev, Tsvetanov are blessed. For Ivanov, Georgiev, Dimitrov and many other common names, build associations. For example, Radev as the president, Ivanov as the neighbors' family, Petrunova as your colleague, etc.
Some people say seemingly illogical things when meeting: "Emilia? That's my niece's name." In this way, the person articulates out loud the association he is building in his mind to remember the name. It also shares something personal and throws another bridge to intimacy.
When the last name is difficult to remember, you can introduce the person as a friend (it doesn't have to be true) and ask to be called by their first name. However, consider whether the situation allows for such intimacy.
And you will be pleased when the interlocutor calls you by name. To make it easier, when introducing yourself, introduce yourself slowly and clearly. Don't count on him remembering your name, even if you've met before. Better to repeat your name yourself. Otherwise, you put him in the awkward situation of asking you and pretending that he didn't remember you because he has a bad memory or because he didn't think you were important. This is a false start for the conversation.