19.03.2025

HOW NOT TO ALLOW ANYONE TO ANNOY YOU AT WORK

You will have more success in your work and you will live happier if you get used to the thought that from time to time your boss criticizes you, makes you notes, annoys you, you get into some contradictions with colleagues and partners. Scientists are inevitable to get used to the thought that negative emotions are inevitable. They explain that the secret of spiritual peace is in accepting negative events and feelings as an integral part of everyday life.

Researchers have found that by the sample method and the age error, people naturally reach this conclusion. They become more patient, less angry and suffer shorter when they meet a bad attitude. It is usually said that they are wise.

These results once again confirm a study involving 340 people between the ages of 21 to 73 years. Everyone had to answer questions related to the way they feel every day and the extent to which they accept their emotions. Analysis of the answers shows that the ability to accept increases over the years, and the power of negative emotions decreases.

You do not have to wait to grow old to learn to welcome more peaceful insult, anger, sadness, guilt. The earlier you have to accept these emotions, the easier it will be to control them and will not be left to their destructive power. You will be cooler, you will make more correct decisions, your behavior will be more pre-remedied and adequate to situations.

This means, instead of rejecting negative feelings, to get used to that they exist. Do not deny what you are experiencing, as bad as it sounds, however nice you are to admit to yourself - hatred of the boss, contempt for an incompetent colleague, annoyance from work, etc. The goal is to change your relationship with a negative feeling, psychologists explain. In this way, you engage in the negative emotion, but you can also overcome it more easily.

Scientists specify how acceptance works and why it is useful. It reduces the affect by two connected processes.

The first is that you give yourself the opportunity to admit, name and understand your negative emotions. With this, you encourage compassion for yourself, and hence psychological and behavioral flexibility.

The second process is that acceptance decreases the "preference" of negative feelings and so -called. Metamines. This is what the effects of the type "angry I am angry" are called. They do not help to deal with the initial negative emotions, but deepen them.

Although intricately interpreted by scientists, the psychological effects of admission are generally a clear life. Everyone knows that anger is a bad advisor. Everyone was nervously nervous, and then he said "well, why should I have so much."

However, many people fail to follow the behavior of acceptance, because engaging in negative emotions initially enhances their subjective experience and suffering. In an acute situation, they most often act in one of the two opposite ways: either throwing out - anger, eating out, grilling, crining, or suppressing a negative feeling.

Both ways are equally unproductive in terms of social relations and health, psychologists explain. Acceptance is actually a reaction, with the right one that can replace much more effectively, the outburst and the suppression.

Let's say your boss made a note because you are late for work. You feel offended - muttering for half an hour today, and forgets that yesterday you had to stay 2 hours after working hours to do an emergency task. This injustice is angry with you. You are affected, you say something immense to the boss, or just in mind you "come up" for a few hours. What do you get? Or complicated relationships with the chief because of his angry reaction. Or you are torturing and working for a few hours less efficiently.

Acceptance means to name your feelings: you are offended and angry. This will strengthen your suffering. But it is also a kind of expression of emotions and at the same time you will experience compassion for yourself. This reaction will help you experience more negative feelings.

However, you should not fall into self -pity, but to show flexibility - to quickly get rid of insult and anger. What will you achieve by suffering from insult? Haring yourself, the boss of this will happen to him.

To give the will to your anger before the boss will not lead to anything good.

An important part of accepting negative emotions is not to condemn, not to try to "return it" to the one who has caused them to you. At least not right now.

In the case of the remark about the delay, your boss is as straight as you are wrong. If there is a working time, it must be observed and part of its obligations is to keep track of it. Well, not only the beginning but also its end must be observed. Instead of being angry, you think about what your long -term behavior should be - is it worth making extra effort, working with this manager and in this company.

However, this is a matter of analysis that you only do after you have realized and accepted your negative emotions. Whether you are an account and how often you experience them in your work.

The productive behavior is to consider that they are an inevitable part of professional life, but also to put a measure beyond which their quantity should not pass because there is a threat to your health.