12.03.2025

10 WAYS TO MANIPULATE ELEGANTLY

Convincing and getting what you want is an art. Some people seem to be born with this talent, others have to work hard to learn to be charismatic.

There are a few tricks that will make it easier for you to inspire trust in your interlocutors. They operate mainly on a subconscious level.

The first condition is that you yourself do not feel nervous during the conversation. So manipulate yourself.

1. Imagine that the boss you're asking for a raise or the partner you're trying to negotiate with is your friend. This will make you feel more relaxed and find the right words more easily.
2. When you are very anxious before an important conversation, chew gum. This technique probably seems a little strange to you, but everyone associates eating with peace and security. By chewing, your brain will think you are eating and the panic will decrease. Naturally, before starting the conversation, spit out the gum.
3. Control your breathing. Under stress, it and the heartbeat are involved. By breathing more deeply and slowly, you will normalize the rhythm of the heart, from there - the flow of blood to the brain, and you will feel calmer.

In any meeting, the beginning is important. Therefore, you should make an effort to make it as pleasant as possible.

4. Greet your interlocutor with an idea more enthusiastically than is accepted for business contacts. Just an idea, don't overdo it. Smile sincerely and say his name with warm feeling. It will feel good for him, and you are also setting yourself up to feel pleasure from the meeting.
5. Eye contact always works effectively because it creates trust. In order to charm the interlocutor, suggest to yourself that you need to determine the color of his irises as soon as you meet. That way you won't be distracted, you'll look him in the eye.
6. A very clever trick is the mirror at the place of negotiation. It should be placed so that guests in the office can see themselves in it. As a rule, people always try to look their best in the mirror and startle themselves when they see their angry reflection. This forces them to behave politely and politely.

Sometimes you have to start a conversation in a public place.

7. A clever way to get a guy's attention is to stare at something over his shoulder. As soon as you feel him looking at you, move your gaze to his eyes and smile. You have to do it quickly. Otherwise, the person will turn to see what is behind them, so you stare so persistently.

During the conversation itself, you can help yourself with tricks.

8. If you ask a question but the answer is unclear or you don't like it, don't ask again. Just look your interlocutor intently in the eyes. This technique will force him into explanation mode.
9. When someone raises their voice, you stay cool. Pretend nothing happened. At the first moment, the other person may be even more angry at your calmness and lack of reaction. But if you endure this pressure as well, his anger will be replaced by guilt over the outburst.
10. When you expect a boss, colleague or partner to criticize you in a meeting, try sitting next to them. Purely physical proximity will make him less bold and speak more softly than if you were at a distance.