21.11.2024

YES AND SUCCESS IS A HABIT

You have heard a thousand times that after failure you should not wallow in suffering, but coolly analyze why it happened to you. It's the same after success.

Celebrate, of course, but remember that after the initial euphoria, you need to honestly analyze why it happened to you. It is useful because success is also a habit.

More precisely, the right habits lead to success. If you read the interviews or books of people who have achieved something significant, you will notice that they pay special attention to the things that lead them to success. Sometimes these things seem cliché to you. That they are optimistic. That they are focused on their goals. That they are not afraid to take risks after weighing the risk. That they know each other's strengths and weaknesses. That they are not worth their efforts. That the most resilient wins - the one who doesn't give up.

All of this sounds painfully familiar indeed. But it's painfully true. And the question of how to implement it at home is painfully difficult.

You can't buy a formula for success, you have to find it for yourself. Ultimately, success depends on identifying the beneficial actions and building habits that help you be productive, personal development experts say.

Imagine it like this. You want to lose weight. You try 5-6 diets recommended by experts, colleagues, neighbors. The seventh turns out to be effective. You lose weight. When next spring you decide to lose a few kilos, you won't waste your time with those 5-6, you'll go on the seventh diet again, won't you?

So it is with success. Once you have achieved this, it is quite logical to realize which of your actions have generated positive results. When you realize them, you will repeat them. Gradually, you will create the right habits that work for you and help you achieve your goals.

In practice, it's not that simple, because there are always new circumstances to consider. But still the first is self-knowledge. Strategic selection is the second. And it won't work without the first one.

Elementary example. There are people who can think and talk at the same time. Others are stronger when they organize their thoughts in writing. Let's say you're one of the latter. If you realize that it is because of this feature of yours that you have achieved your current success, then you should try to act in the same way in the next task.

It is a matter of strategic selection to choose a job that allows you to utilize this strong point of yours. Obviously, occupations or positions with many situations where you are required to think and speak at the same time are not for you. For example, you don't become a politician or a boss. But when you find yourself in the right place and have developed the right habit of coping, your chances of success increase manifold.

Probably sometimes tactical selection will also be necessary – i.e. to decide how to get out of a situation where you don't have time to organize your thoughts in writing. But it won't be too often, once you've done the main thing - you have self-awareness of how you succeed and, according to him, you've made a strategic selection of your goals and actions.

Therefore, after every success, the question "why" is key. And maybe every time you will discover something new for yourself - an action that you will develop as a habit and it will lead you to further success.

No matter how strange it is, a person always thinks he knows himself, but throughout his life he discovers new things about himself. You may not have had to bargain before, in this task you did it for the first time, and precisely because of your persuasiveness you achieved an excellent result. By realizing it, and in the second case you will act in a similar way, you will improve the offer that the partners offered you and save costs for the company. And that will mean bonuses for you.

Also, a person changes with age and experience. Were you not successful because you came to work early in the morning and were much more efficient in a quiet office? Until now, you thought that you were not from the so-called larks, but here the good ones have done something to you.

"Achieving self-knowledge is not easy, because the human personality is not static. If you want to know yourself well, you must constantly make a purposeful effort to renew your idea of ​​your own identity. This is extremely important for achieving success in any sphere of life, since without the necessary self-knowledge, a person can easily become a victim of thoughtless decisions and the pursuit of a wrong goal," the experts point out.

No one else knows what is best for you. The opposite statement may be acceptable, and only to a certain extent, for children at that period of their lives when parents bear the entire responsibility for their well-being. But when it comes to building a worthwhile career, the probability of success is directly proportional to the amount of actions that you yourself think are right. The most important thing is to listen to yourself and learn to cooperate with your own intuition.

However, the pursuit of self-knowledge is an often overlooked ingredient of success. Maybe because it sounds kind of philosophically hijacked.

At the expense of this, the advice is compulsively repeated, for example, to keep learning. "It is absolutely true that one should never stop learning, improving and developing. It is prudent to contact people who are smarter and better than oneself in order to 'buy' from them - say the experts. - But it's completely irresponsible if you don't learn from your own victories. Look for clues and evidence of success, get to know what works for you, make it a habit and nothing will be able to stop you."

And if it does happen to stop you? Well, then you get into that other "why" - finding the action that led to the negative results and not repeating it.

Such is life, and the only consolation is that along the way up and down you gradually develop a "sixth sense" - the habit of intuitively feeling what to do and what not to do.

----- Banalities don't help -----

When you succeed, you have every right to be proud. But when analyzing why you achieved it, beware of banal explanations. They're a must if you're giving a public speech - that's what people expect to hear from you. When you talk to yourself, they are completely useless.

o "I worked a lot". It must have been, success is seldom achieved with little work. But unless it happens to you for the first time, this general finding has little practical meaning. Try to recall your actions step by step to find what made a decisive contribution to victory and turn it into a habit.

o "I believed". Undoubtedly - if you didn't believe, you wouldn't fight for success. However, your task is to find the roots of your confidence and carefully water them in the future.

o "I risked". The risk was probably measured. By tracking how you weighed the pros and cons, you'll build a pattern. Assessing risks correctly is also a habit.

o "I was lucky". A favorable confluence of circumstances helps in any work. But luck is only important in lotto and lottery. In most other cases, it comes with good preparation.