31.12.2024
STEREOTYPES OF CONSCIOUSNESS OFTEN PREVENT SUCCESS
Success in your career, and indeed in almost every situation in life, is in your head. There is the knowledge gained through education and experience, the skills to analyze, to come up with solutions and to work in a team, the self-belief that you can, the confidence that you will succeed. However, there are also certain features of the human consciousness that greatly interfere - stereotypes. They arise from the same positive accumulations in the mind, but when you let them out of control, they become their negation.
Decontamination, that is, the purification of consciousness, is more of a theoretical scientific term. According to psychologists, stereotypes are difficult to change. By being aware of them, however, at least you allow less damage. And if you try to self-manipulate, you may even get out of the trap of the most common stereotypes.
It's a subconscious drive. You have accumulated life experience and you think you know how to act. You don't take into account the new circumstances, you fall into a mental pattern, you make hasty conclusions, you drive in the familiar way. Psychologists call this reflex action. It is as if the brain automatically makes a decision, choosing the shortest path, ie. the one he has already passed.
It's hard to make the mind work any other way. The only way out is to quite purposefully stop him, force him to find the differences in the factual situation, evaluate them and break out of the pattern. Successful people, even in the most stressful and demanding situations, strive to do just that.
It is an absolutely human endeavor to explain everything that is happening around you. At first glance, such an approach should help you analyze the situation more correctly and make more correct decisions. But the mind guesses a trick here too - it reduces the explanation to what it knows. It constructs some reality of its own, without seeking to critically consider this version, to check whether alternatives are possible. What he cannot find an explanation for, he often directly rejects (there is no such animal, said the shopkeeper, seeing a giraffe for the first time).
Successful people do not declare the inexplicable impossible to exist, nor do they reduce everything to the known. They assume that they need new knowledge and research to understand problems, circumstances, events, people. By approaching it this way, they guarantee themselves success.
You think you are one of those people who do not have superimposed prejudices against other people - gays, foreigners, women, rich people, etc. However, this is called prejudice. They are bad, but they are easier to recognize and self-control. Prejudices seem more harmless. They are subconscious beliefs that are based on experience and determine your behavior. Simply put, you know that soup is eaten with a spoon, not a fork.
Yes, but this very pre-confidence often prevents you from seeing a new solution in a familiar situation that can lead to new results. The most successful people command their consciousness to think outside the box and discover an effective way that no one has thought of before. Again, in the simplest terms, for example, they skip the spoon and straight up drink the soup.
You've racked your brain, you've been careful not to fall into any of the traps of your conscious and subconscious mind, you've come up with a solution. Relieved, you become so focused on him, so fond of him that you miss out on all other options. Even if they occur to you, you dismiss them. You begin to perceive only those facts that confirm your opinion. Anything that contradicts it, you ignore.
The brain works the same in all people - it defends its position, refuses another point of view. As a result, objectivity is lost, and the decision is not necessarily the right one.
Successful people avoid this trap of self-loving consciousness by purposefully seeking out opponents. They listen to their arguments and try to refute them. And if they can't, they change their mind.
Most people pride themselves on being able to think for themselves and are hard-pressed to be influenced. This is rarely true - consciously or subconsciously, they adopt attitudes from colleagues, friends, relatives and begin to share them. This way they feel part of the community and live more comfortably. Conformists always have it easier than rebels.
However, success means breaking out of mainstream stereotypes. The small one is to do things like others, but better. The big one is to consciously manipulate yourself, to leave the cliche and do things differently.
One of the nastiest tricks of the subconscious mind is transferring the negative feelings you have toward familiar people into your interactions with strangers.
You go on a first date with a business partner, he somehow resembles that unpleasant fellow student with whom you always competed at university. Without wanting to, you show coldness and fail the deal.
It is insidious to convey naive and positive feelings. The new colleague has something of your closest friend, you trust her uncritically and you sink into intrigue because she is ill-intentioned.
This transfer of feelings is completely natural - your brain goes into the pattern by likening the unknown to the familiar. From there, the same emotions are awakened. But the transference in question is the most common reason you fail your relationships with others, say psychologists. The chance of being wrong when you judge someone by how they remind you of someone else is enormous.
The transference of feelings is also a method of treatment in psychotherapy. So heal yourself by not allowing your subconscious to make such a transfer in your business relationships.
