27.12.2024

WHEN THE BOSS REBELS ON YOU AND THE GUILTY COLLEAGUE KEEP SICK

The boss is angry, very angry. Blaze fire and brimstone. Horror - against you.

From his violent tirade, you gradually learn that what made him angry was not your fault, nor your responsibility. The blunder is your colleague.

And this colleague is sitting next to you and not a word, not a cry, not a groan. Meekly, sneakily lurks.

And what should you do? Do not boil, do not be angry,

don't be offended and don't call.

Your boss is now bubbling and you will inflame him even more if you say "But why are you arguing with me". By interrupting him, you will add fuel to the fire, no matter what you say. Wait for it to calm down.

Take control of your own emotions during this time. It is very difficult when it is not your fault, and especially when the boss overdoes the harsh evaluations and words. But don't give in to your negative feelings. The moment you let them grab you, you become vulnerable.

Try not to be a mirror for the angry person and keep your composure. Only in this way can you get out of the conflict. Otherwise, you will get into a scandal, but remember, the angry person is your boss. Your most important goal is to let him release his negative emotions with your temporary silence.

And to your colleague, who is guilty and persists, don't be angry. Yes, he acts inappropriately. The honest person will immediately say "Boss, it was my responsibility". But such is life, where does this luck come from to work only with people who have the courage and morals to take their blame.

Your composure is even more necessary because you have to

to fight with two - an unfair boss and a mean colleague.

Remember this when you are hesitant to state in plain text that the one who did not do his work is your colleague. No, there is nothing to be uncomfortable about. You don't give it out and you don't pass it on. You speak the truth. You shouldn't feel any pity for him, if you really have no fault, and the guilty one keeps silent.

The only question that should concern you is when to open your mouth and

what exactly to say so as not to complicate the situation.

You boss probably know him. If he's a good manager and just messed up, you shouldn't make him seem incompetent by your reaction. He is the boss, he assigned responsibilities and assigned tasks, he must be aware of which of his subordinates is charged with what work. But he'll be pissed if he hears some equivalent of "You're wrong, boss, to fight me. He assigned it to the colleague, and he lashed out." It sounds like an accusation against the boss, and under no circumstances should you allow it.

After listening in silence and waiting for the boss to cool down, insert something like: "I understand, you are angry that the part of the project that Ivanov was supposed to finish did not work out. I am ready to help. What can I do?" It is

an elegant way to state several things

at the same time: that the superior does not scold his rightful subordinate, but this unjustly aggrieved person does not get angry, brings clarity in passing and is ready to cooperate.

If he is really a good manager and a fair person, he will immediately understand what is happening. Either he will tackle Ivanov, or he will start a constructive conversation about who should do what to solve the problem.

He will probably remember who behaved how in this situation. He will appreciate your behavior - you have not disparaged him as being ignorant of the distribution of work in the team, which is his official duty to know. And for the meanly lurking colleague, maybe he will have one thing in mind going forward.

But if he's the type of manager who likes to assign collective blame as well, prepare to get nowhere. Again, tell yourself that the blunder is your colleague's, although the superior will instantly join you in it, will find something to reproach you for.

Again, don't get angry and don't take offense. Man is like that, he doesn't admit when he's wrong. I hope he at least remembers that it wasn't your fault and there won't be any bigger consequences. But think about it

how often it happens that he imputes other people's faults to you.

If it is often, he has ordered you for some reason. Or you have a circle of favorites who are always the holy water not drunk, someone prevented them from doing their work, etc. You are not one of them, and if you do not want to use some tricks to move among the favorites, you will always suffer from the boss. It makes more sense to look around for other opportunities within this company or outside.

While you're at it, don't forget the act of the co-worker who lurked around while your boss scolded you for him. This is not bad memory, but prudence. This man is dishonest, other meannesses can be expected from him.