29.08.2023
SUCCESS TECHNIQUES: "WHAT CAN I LEARN FROM THIS?": 9 PHRASES THAT SPEAK OF EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
Emotionally resilient people consciously respond to painful experiences. They allow themselves to grieve, remember what they are grateful for, and focus on what they can control right now.
But for many people it's an uphill battle, and it takes effort, practice and mental strength to win.
If you use any of these phrases every day, then you are more emotionally resilient than most people:
Emotional resilience is associated with courage and mental resilience. There is an understanding that we must be strong and overcome adversity without letting it break us.
A similar phrase: "As much as I hate this, I can live with it."
Resilience means that when you experience the pain of mistreatment, you change your perspective from "I'm a victim and I'm powerless to help myself" to "How can I grow from this?"
A similar phrase: "Even though I was a victim in this situation, I will not let it define me or destroy my future."
Resilience is associated with a basic acceptance that life is not always fair and that we all experience emotional difficulties. Accepting this truth helps people not take things so personally when undesirable events occur.
A similar phrase: "I'm not always going to be happy with how things turn out. But that's part of the journey."
Resilient people believe that setbacks and challenges may feel terrible in the moment, but that nothing in life is permanent. This doesn't mean the pain will go away completely, but it does mean we can work to make it less traumatic and harmful to us over time.
A similar phrase: "Every day is an opportunity to feel a little better."
Openness to experiences and the ability to shift your perspective from "Why did this happen to me?" to "What can I take from this to grow?" can help you better cope with life's inevitable ups and downs.
A similar phrase: "Even in the darkest experiences there is always a gift - I just need to find out what it is. How can I use this experience to empower and transform me?"
A key component of resilience is emotional flexibility, or the ability to regulate your feelings and reduce their intensity in a given situation. Mastering this ability can help us feel strong in difficult times.
A similar phrase: "I'm feeling a strong emotion, so I'm going to take some time before reacting or making important decisions."
We are hardwired to notice threats to our well-being. But people who are resilient find a way to focus on the positive even in difficult times.
A similar phrase: "It may be hard for me, but I can find a way to be grateful for the good things in my life."
The key to resilience is not in denying reality or looking for a reason to make us feel better about what happened. When we come to a place of radical acceptance, the situation has less power over us.
A similar phrase: "I have to see reality as it is, even if it's not what I want, in order to move forward."
If we are offended, want revenge, or focus on revenge, it causes us to hold on to the pain of the past. Developing resilience requires getting to the place where we can see life's difficult circumstances for what they are and actively choose to let them go.
A similar phrase: "Forgiving doesn't mean it's all right; it just means I'm not letting it weigh on me anymore."
